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Soul Shelter

Notes from one woman’s journey through emotional abuse, to my AAPI faith sisters.

You are beloved. You are not alone. Welcome to a safe, listening space that believes in and blesses your belovedness.

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A blog created to support AAPI women of faith who are navigating emotionally abusive relationships.

About

I am an AAPI artist, poet, coach, and facilitator working at the intersection of grief and joy. Emotional abuse is part of my history. I have survived, and continue to find healing and wholeness on the other side. It’s a work in progress.

This blog has been created because you are completely(!) worthy of love and respect. Emotional abuse can wipe that truth from your memory. No more.

It’s time for a new chapter of remembering and healing for us all.

Welcome. :)

We are not therapists, a help line, or crisis intervention counselors. If you would like to talk with someone, here are some options to consider:
(United States) National Domestic Violence Hotline 24/7 voice: 800-799-7233 text: “START” to 88788
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: call 1(800)273-8255 or text START to 741-741.
RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network), anti-sexual violence organization: call 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
National Child Abuse Hotline: call 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-2253)
Though I’m writing to AAPI women of faith, others may also find they relate. If that’s you, welcome! The views expressed here are my own thoughts and opinions, based on my personal experiences.

Never miss a post!

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Lint and Folds

May you find yourself held safe, hidden in the rich folds of the night you find yourself in.

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No Night Too Dark

No night is so dark you cannot be found once again and brought back to life.

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Hold Fast

Grief is not meant to be carried alone.

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You are beloved.

I will always remember the first time I heard those words.

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Dream the Dream

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I’m ok.

Some of you are asking if I am okay re-living all this.

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Safer (?) Silence

The loss of voice and the role of silence in emotionally abusive relationships is a huge iceberg. Here’s the tip, in two poems - one about my experience, the other from me to you.